Love

What does love mean to me?  I could go on and on about CS Lewis' Four Loves but I think what love is is a living energy that binds people together.  This need not sound like something physical, metaphysical or science-fictionesque.  Real love resembles the creative force that spoke the world into being. And as such it transcends all limits.  If I truly feel love for someone, there is nothing that can tear us apart, even if we do in fact separate physically.  That is why people can still love their husband/wife after divorce.  They may have fallen out of being each other's mate but love itself has not disappeared.  

Sex and love are hard subjects for me because it has been hard to put the two together.  I either like someone for their body or their personality.  It has been hard for me to admit that because I can be quite embarrassed regarding sex, whereas I can be publicly quite romantic about love.  I have had an almost chivalrous attitude toward romantic love, like that of a courtly knight and the love that must always be unrequited.  And an adolescent uneasiness surrounding sexual relations.  Both attitudes are unhealthy to some degree.  I am learning to overcome that, though.  The truth is that sexual relations has as its place between two people who truly love one another as people who cannot be apart.  This truth cuts through the schism between desiring sex alone and being enamored only with the idea of romance.  Falling in love is with a person as he or she is.